Co-Parent Compatibility Checklist

Answer for a specific person you're considering. For each statement, mark whether you've actually discussed it and agree. Scored instantly in your browser, and nothing is stored or sent.

Why these five domains

When elective co-parenting arrangements end up in mediation or court, the disputes cluster in predictable places: money that was never explicitly divided, parenting time that one person assumed and the other never agreed to, value conflicts (religion, education, medical decisions) discovered after the child arrived, logistics like relocation, and, underneath all of them, the absence of any agreed way to resolve disagreement. This checklist walks the same territory a good family-law attorney or mediator would, so you can find the gaps while they're still cheap to fix.

A low score isn't a verdict on the person. It's a map of the conversations you haven't had yet. Have them before anyone signs anything: our questions guide shows how to open each one.

What to do with your score

• 80%+ with no weak domain: you're ready for the formal step: attorney consultations and a written agreement. What goes in the agreement.
• 50–80%: work through the unsettled items one at a time. The 200-question workbook was built for exactly this stage.
• Below 50% or any domain at zero: pause. Unresolved fundamentals don't improve after conception. See the red flags that predict court.

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